My Pity Party is Over
Oct 19th, 2007 by scrappitydoodah
It’s been a good long thinking session. I appreciate all the comments and suggestions.
I’ve done a lot of soul-searching and faced some things about myself. So here I go, bullet-style:
- I really do need to take a little time to myself on a regular basis. I don’t mean staying up until two in the morning to have time alone, either. For the record, my husband supports this; I am the one who usually just stops doing it, for whatever reason.
- I am a better mom when I get to bed early. This is something I really need to work on; I’m a night owl by nature.
- I am inconsistent in my parenting methods. I had a really honest conversation with my husband about this, and together we worked out a plan. I need to mean what I say, say what I mean, and follow through immediately.
- I am more focused (and a better mom) when I am in an organized, peaceful environment. So this past week, I did a major house cleansing. I freecycled so many items from this house, reorganized closet spaces, and really evaluated what I did and did not want, need, or love. The kids did this, too, and now the house is nearly finished and I am already feeling the calm slip over me.
So. The majority of the bickering and sass has ceased; I really had to stop worrying over every little nuance of every little thing, and just do what I need to do to make sure this family functions smoothly.
So the homeschooling continues.
That’s great. It’s always good to stop every now and then and do a re-evaluation of how things are going. And I always feel better after I toss out the closets and get some organization back into things. Enjoy the calm!
I just wrote a post about being negative and contemplating public schooling for the kids. I am so glad I found your blog. Your past few posts have helped me put some things into prospective. At least letting me know I am not alone. Thanks!
I just wrote a post about being negative and contemplating public schooling for the kids. I am so glad I found your blog. Your past few posts have helped me put some things into prospective. At least letting me know I am not alone. Thanks!
(I am not sure if this has posted or not…computer is taking forever and it says I have duplicated but I don’t know)
Great post! I can really identify with your last point. People always advise to let the housework go and just enjoy the day, but it’s never worked for me. I think I’m too visual - if the house is a mess, I feel like a mess inside; if it’s clean and organized, I feel empowered and ready to take on anything.
I am wrangling with the same issues! It sounds like you and your husband are doing beautifully in addressing all this.
On a completely selfish train of thought (the only train worth taking)… I’m thrilled.
I like your blog and I think it would change too much if the kids were in school.